In the boudoir with Dayla
Your sex questions answered by the lovely Dayla, Passion Party Consultant
What are anal beads and how do they work? Becky, Kansas
Passion Party Pleasure Anchor
Dear Becky,
Anal beads are beads of various sizes attached by a string and a ring that prevent them from being dislodged and lost in space. They are inserted into the anus one at a time during sex and then removed at various speeds to heighten orgasm.
And folks, there is a reason anal toys are some of my best sellers. The sphincter contains many nerve endings that can be extremely pleasurable with pressure or stimulation. Anal beads come in various sizes. Beginners often prefer the smaller varieties, while others enjoy the intensity of larger ones. The key to using them is lubrication and relaxation. Don’t be scared of the anal beads! Just don’t rip them out like you are trying to start a lawn mower, and you will be ok. And remember clean well with a body safe toy cleaner like Passion Parties “Clean and Simple.” And note that now there are more hygienic and easier to clean versions that are now made with silicon or plastic like the Passion Party Love Wand or the Pleasure Anchor.
Your Sex Questions Answered by the Lovely Dayla Cox, Passion Party Consultant
Some say love…
“My vagina lips are long. Is this normal? I am so embarrassed.”
Molly, Arizona
Dear Molly,
Just like penises and nipples, V-Jays come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. A vagina with long lovely lips is referred to by some as a “Full Blown Rose” and is a fetish for some people. Some women even claim a higher sex drive that they contribute to more nerve endings. So in other words, nothing is wrong with you. Nothing at all…
Got a question for our resident sexpert? Send them to Dayla c/o editor@pincurlmag.com
Amanda Brooks shares with us five books about love, romance and sex! Perfect for those in or out of a relationship.
Gone With the Wind
There was never a heroine like Scarlet O’Hara. Scarlet is livelier on the page of this sweeping tale about misplaced passion than most people in real life. And you’ll be wishing for a Rhett Butler to pursue you through war, marriages, death, poverty and fortune. They had sizzling sex, she fit herself in 17-inch corsets and the book’s ending is probably the most famously ambiguous ending of all time. She loves Ashley (arguably more than herself), Rhett loves her, Melanie loves her, Ashley loves Melanie and most of all she loves Tara – the plantation she grew up on and fights for. You’ll be sorry when the book ends because there is no sequel by Margaret Mitchell.
Harold and Maude
One of the quirkiest love stories around, it’s funny and memorable and very real. Harold loves Maude and Maude loves life. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry and you’ll wish you knew Maude too.
The Scarlet Pimpernel
A swashbuckling tale told from the woman’s perspective. Though intrigue and the French Revolution is the background, the real story is a beautiful, caustic Frenchwoman single-handedly saving her marriage and realizing the love of her life. It doesn’t get any more romantic than this!
Kushiel’s Dart
Another romantic thriller through the eyes of a woman, though this woman is just a little bit different. Trained as a spy AND courtesan, Phedre falls in love (quite a few times, actually) and saves her country. Her determination reminded one reviewer of Scarlet (see above), though Phedre is slightly less self-centered. There are battles and queens and gorgeous men, amazing tattoos, beautiful clothes, lots of sizzling sex and a society that celebrates prostitution. Not to mention one of the best villains ever — Melisande.
Memoirs of a Geisha
Not only a journey through the world of geisha, one of the sweetest, most aching love stories. Though the account is fictionalized, the female voice is so very real. Suri loves The Chairman and no one else from the time she is 9 years old. Will she ever get his attention and win his heart? Everything else is almost beside the point (in her mind) as she pursues her one dream through debt bondage, cruel inter-geisha politics, war and rebuilding her shattered life.
